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10 April 2019, 6:25

BDSM seminar. Part one. 2008

Once upon a time, when some of us were not yet in the world, the soldiers of the American army were returning from Vietnam and they were returning considerably changed. The fighting in a foreign territory fairly shifted the roof to the farm children, as a result of the huge number of young people found themselves significantly more inclined to a keen life than not fighting. Informal movements among these people considered themselves to be part of the Leather Pride - Leather Pride, People Wearing Leather. Indeed, rather large stocks of leather uniforms were first procured by the US military and were distributed to the demobilized. Leather clothing and military attributes, such as forage caps, are inherent, as you might have noticed, in quite different informal currents. The bottom line is that their founders were all from Leather Pride. By the way, yes, the vast majority of these groups were homosexuals :) 

The basis of the subculture, which later began to be called BDSM, was the Old Guard group, on the one hand practicing very tough relations within themselves, on the other, not wishing to oppose themselves to society, as did the other famous members of Leather Pride - Hell Angels. The Old Guard formulated a number of principles that made its practices socially acceptable to the rest of society, and over time, not only acceptable, but also attractive. 

 

BDSM is an abbreviation for the main parts of a subculture: 

SM - sadomasochism, getting pleasure through pain 

D / s - dominance / submission, description of relations between partners 

BD - bondage and discipline - simplified description of the Scene as a form of practice 

The concept of the Sexual Power Exchange is traditionally called the basis of the process in BDSM, which has not been adequately translated into Russian so far, which is sad, but in general, and figs with it. 

The bottom line is that: 

1. This thing is tied to sex, but pretty differently. Many practitioners do not have sex during action games, or do not regard the Thematic partners at all as sex objects, but in practice they formulate the “requirements” to partners as well as to sexual partners — that is, the partner should be attractive to him, for example. The easiest way to proceed from the fact that it is still always sex, but not always coitus. 

To me personally, to be honest, this bezokoitalnaya form seems to be some very strange, but I respect the desire of others to exist in it. Although nifiga do not understand how it is with them. 

 

2. This thing implies an unusual balance of rights, responsibilities, trust, someone decides who is in charge, and so on. Let's start with trust, perhaps, because for my taste everything is danced from it. 

Thematic relationship in default implies a significantly higher level of trust in the partner. Just because the top can, in theory, cripple, and the bottom can easily file for rape and other troubles. Trust is a seasoning that pretty paints almost any thematic canoe that practices that relationship. For the overwhelming number of lower trust is revealed, through giving the opportunity to control oneself. For a significant number of sadists, pain is the tool that provides confidence in the behavior of your partner. We will talk more in detail. 

Further, opportunities for the exchange of responsibilities and opportunities are layered on this, we will talk about this a lot and separately. 

3. Exchange is a very important word. The people who invented the BDSM, invested quite a lot of work in order to compose a strict and beautiful system of relationships, based on romantic versions of medieval constructions. Exchange is a key concept in the ideological constructs of BDSM, fixing that, despite the seemingly strong imbalance in relations, each of their participants must be happy in their own way and receive no less than his partner. Actually, the balance was the first concept that distinguishes BDSM from slavery in the aforementioned Angels. 

So, Sexual Power Exchange is what they do as part of BDSM. Something related to the sexuality of partners, having in its composition strength and power, as an integral part of the practice and all this doing should bring happiness to all doers. It is crookedly told, but, God willing, gradually develop. 

Now about the limitations that describe the BDSM framework. 

SSC - Safe, Sane, Consensual

 I always suffer a lot, trying to tell what a framework is. Imagine a balloon. This is what you do. Imagine that you inflate it - these are your actions. The more different things you do, the wider your practice becomes. If you put this ball in a box, then its walls will not allow it to swell beyond its frame. 

This is how the SSC framework limits practices in BDSM, preventing them from becoming socially unacceptable. 

The domestic history of SSC translations is extremely sad. Since a month ago I made a pledge not to push it anymore about the wretchedness of the accustomed translation, I will tell as it was, but reasonably explaining what it means. 

Safe - Safe. In fact, of course, BDSM practices are unsafe, just as driving a car or working with a chainsaw is unsafe. The basic meaning of Safe is how we do what we do, and we do it in order to ensure that it is safe. I mean neatly. 

Sane - Reasonably. Well, I mean, we do not do anything at random, but an even more important sense is that we are not in a state of altered consciousness and that the psyche is not a psycho. It would have been better to say sanity, but it has already become rational.

Consensual - Voluntary. How could this be translated so I do not know, well, in general, yes, everything that happens in the framework of BDSM - happens as if by agreement, and therefore voluntarily. The normal meaning of this word is consistent, but in general, voluntariness in this vein is not the worst consequence of consistency.