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26 March 2019, 10:45

BDSM and Sex: Does the Session Always End with Sex?

To diversify their sex lives, many resorts to the use of additional tools: sex toys, bracers and leggings for fixation, ropes, role-playing games. All this is equally elements of BDSM, but does every session end with sex? That is, is sex a mandatory attribute of BDSM?

BDSM Session

For a start, it is worth recalling that a BDSM session is an action that takes place between two, in the classic version, and several in variations. Thematics will call this the mystery of unity through the infliction of pain or humiliation because the bond that forms in the Top-bottom pair has a completely different character than in the usual pair of sexual partners.

Opinions directly BDSM practitioners about whether to complete such a union with full sexual intercourse, is divided. Some argue that sex and BDSM should be separated in order to enjoy one separately from another, and no substitution of the concept and the development of reflexes occurred. If there is a session, there will be sex, no session – no sex, and vice versa.

Others say that sex in the final, as the cherry on the cake, is the most delicious thing that can be in this practice in general. Their logic can also be understood: in the process a huge amount of energy is accumulated, which in one way or another will get an outlet, and to combine this moment with orgasm means to enjoy the pleasure of unprecedented strength and intensity.

Sex Practices in BDSM

Meanwhile, the world of BDSM offers initially sexual practices that can be supplemented with classic ones and get the perfect combination of BDSM and sex.

For example, genital bondage, masturbation and fellatio allow you to control your partner's orgasm, and sensory deprivation while using sex toys rather strongly exacerbates the sensations. You can also add wax play, flagellation, or sex machines to sensory deprivation — all of which can be used as a prelude to full sexual intercourse with penetration.

The use of strapon in femdom practices also refers to sexual, but here the psychological aspect is more important than its physical embodiment.

So, Is It Worth It or Not to End the Session with Sex?

Masters agree only on one thing: it is necessary to stipulate in advance so that there are no surprises or, on the contrary, deceived expectations. Passions and adrenaline rushing in the blood is an excellent fuel for arousal, but at the same time the bottom partner can experience a completely different range of feelings, get a revelation or even fall into subspace and then any actions of a sexual nature will not bring him pleasure.