BDSM norms

The norms of interaction accepted in BDSM - voluntariness and safety - imply the possibility for the bottom to define taboos and restrictions. These are agreements adopted by the partners (in BDSM action or permanent relationships), which establish for the Upper the boundaries of possible influences on the Lower. In this case, a distinction is made between taboos - permanent prohibitions that cannot be removed, and restrictions - prohibitions that apply temporarily or with certain partners. In practice, however, these concepts are not always strictly distinguished. Inadmissibility of influences included in taboos is usually conditioned by the presence of medical contraindications for certain practices, various phobias, or moral principles of the bottom. Accordingly, a v*******n of a taboo can cause serious physical or psychological trauma. Restrictions, unlike taboos, allow for the possibility of removing them in the future - as trust in the partner grows or as the partner becomes acquainted with a previously unknown practice. It is important to note two fundamental points: - Taboos and restrictions are set by the bottom, they do not require prior agreement. It is left to the Upper to either accept the lower and abide by them, or to refuse thematic interactions with this lower. Of course, the Upper can inquire about the reasons for their appearance, or inform the Lower of some information about practices that have become unacceptable, but the Lower has the right to set the boundaries of what is acceptable. - Removing the limits is done at the will of the lower. If the lower wants to explore his possibilities, or ceases to fear something as his trust in the Upper grows, he can ask for influences that were previously forbidden. The Upper's role in this process (usually called "breaking taboos," which is not quite right) is simply to build trust and inform.