Fetish Fashion Advice FAQ

If you’re new to the BDSM world and culture, it may be pretty difficult to establish your own style and choose a look that fits you. This is why we have put together a FAQ article based on tips from professional BDSM mistresses to help you make some initial BDSM fashion choices, and who knows - maybe you’ll stick with those for a long time!

What are some essentials for those who are just starting out?

If you aspire to become a BDSM mistress, you’ll definitely need some garter stockings, high heeled shoes, and mini shorts. Most BDSM slaves want their mistress to wear these clothes and accessories, so you can’t really go wrong with this investment.

Do I need a corset?

You may not need one at once, but it is a purchase worth considering if you are sure that you can embrace the BDSM lifestyle and maybe even go on to be a professional mistress. Spend some time choosing your first corset and don’t get one with an acrylic base, as such boning tends to snap and fall apart pretty fast. Go for the steel boning instead, and you will get an incredible look for any BDSM events and hookups due to the steel base’s ability to slightly morph into your body shape once you wear your corset in.

What about latex accessories?

If you take a look at just about any BDSM photo gallery, you will surely see people wearing latex. Latex makes you look sexy and particularly dominant, which is always a good thing for a mistress. However, it is also incredibly difficult to put on and quite restrictive, so it may be a good idea to reserve latex fetish items for special occasions. You may also want to use lubricant to slide into your latex clothing with less effort - just apply it all over your body and make sure to lube the insides of your latex outfit as well.

What shoes work best for BDSM hookups?

Generally, BDSM mistresses wear high heeled shoes, often with stiletto heels. These shoes have a particularly sexy look about them, and they also help you obtain a graceful, seducing posture by offsetting your body’s balance. You’ll have to try some high heeled shoes and see what works best for you, but the general rule of thumb is to go with heels that are 7 inch or higher. This may seem counterintuitive, but they are actually more comfortable that 4 or 5 inch heels because with higher heels you get a body weight distribution that is more similar to that of a flat soled shoe.

We hope that these tips and recommendations will help you discover your BDSM fashion sense and find clothes and accessories that fit your dominatrix personality!