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26 April 2019, 2:57

INTRODUCTION TO BDSM. SM. SADISM AND MAZOCHISM

 

The next few days we will move on the concepts of what happens, what does not happen, etc. Those who fiddled around with the theory of the topic may be a bit boring, but we have a significant number of participants who generally do not know much about themselves, so we will introduce words and concepts gradually. 

In addition, as part of the introductory stories, I will try to reveal my view. It sincerely seems to me that a significant number of problems grows out of misunderstanding by the bottom of logic and motivation of the top, which leads somewhere to false expectations, somewhere to dissonances.Yeah, the top also regularly does not understand the bottom.

 But there are some points that we will talk about in a few days. I will remind you.

So.

SM, sadomasochism is undoubtedly the most famous part of BDSM, it also generates the largest number of reactions and society. 

Its essence is that a significant number of people enjoy the actions associated with violence or pain. I prefer to think that any such action can be attributed to the SM in order not to be too agonized with the discussions where the border between the topic and its absence (traditionally non-thematic pieces are called “vanilla”) actually lies.

I do not want to spend time on any formal structuring, if it's necessarily, I answer questions in DM.

The nature of masochism in general is simple and related to physiology. For a significant number of people, pain or certain emotional states cause a complex of hormonal emissions, giving them a set of new, vivid sensations.

 In fact, speaking of hormones, I greatly simplify, in reality there is a fairly rich and not very studied complex of biophysical and biochemical changes, it’s not very important to me and you. 

Basically, under the influence of pain, there are some changes with Mazo's body, which she (ok, he, too, with your permission, I will consider the text in the bottom as a girl and the top as a boy, although in general everything said is suitable for any gender combinations).

The reactions of the bottom are quite diverse, what I met personally can be divided into the following clearly defined groups:

1. I suffer pain, because when it passes, they will caress me and it will be beautiful

2. I enjoy pain, it is a wonderful feeling

3. It hurts me and it puts me in a certain psychological state that I like.

4. It hurts me because I am punished.

The first group is quite rare, the second is purebred mazo, the third is needed only to get inside the Scene, the fourth do not get any pleasure from physiology itself, their happiness is connected with submission and D/S.

If you think that you have a fifth, undescribed case - tell us about that in DM, I will try to resist :-) 

Still distinguish these groups according to the optimal, in my opinion scenario, which I prefer to use for this or that group.

For the first group, something that works on the limit of "strength" will do. It makes no sense to vary the pain and delay the action, it is thrown away forces and emotions. 

To bring the partner to the limit of patience, abruptly interrupt the action, let him enjoy the caress, abruptly interrupt, go through a circle, but softer, bearing in mind that the strength at the previous step has gone down and so on.

With the second group, you can do anything. If the situation allows, it can be very long and varied. Here you can indulge in experiments within a reasonable one and use a bunch of all sorts of tools and tweak all sorts of tricky scenarios.

With the third group, it is very important not just to hurt, but to correctly integrate the action into the psychological image that we dream. Approximately 80% of this group needs a “rape” scene, so this is a painful bondage, no impact effects, such as twisted nipples, well, something further there during sex. 

The essence of our actions is that a partner should feel violence, and not feel pain, pain is simply a marker of violence. The fourth group is a punishment within the framework of D/S. 

Let's go further.

The SM toolkit is quite impressive, as is the set of techniques. I will mention for general education several of the most famous: Porky of different types of whip, whip, canes, floggers, a lot of differentBurning wax, dripping or brushing, often in combination with ice.

Needles piercingKnife play, scratching or light cuts and / or stabs with a knife squeezing of different types, clamps, weights, just fingers :-)

Pain bondage, pain, effects on joints and / or reflex points, hard sex, pain from exposure to vagina, anus and breathing games of various kind static pain on kneeling on peas, for example. Electricity, moderate impact with special devices or weak stun guns.

Who has not found something loved?